Working with Couples

“Love is everything it’s cracked up to be…It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, your risk is even greater.”

Erica Jong

Couples, even happy ones, can sometimes face difficulty. Couples can find themselves in repetitive cycles that leave each person feeling more separate than together. In these situations, it is natural for some difficult feelings to appear.

Maybe you’re feeling…

  • like you just can’t communicate with your partner
  • like the conflict between the two of you keeps getting worse despite your best intentions
  • a loss of affection and intimacy between the two of you
  • like it is hard for you to trust your partner
  • criticized and judged; like no matter what you say or do it’s not the right thing
  • not cared for, or like you don’t really matter to your partner
  • like you’re avoiding your partner so as not to get into an argument
  • like your arguments go around and around and you don’t seem to get anywhere, but feel more discouraged
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Sometimes these problems can feel insurmountable, but they’re not.

The two models that form my foundation when working doing couples counseling are Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems. Both are supported by research that shows their effectiveness. When doing couples therapy, I incorporate other methods as needed and as welcomed by my clients, including behavioral and solution-focused techniques.

In our work, first we’ll understand what it’s like for each of you to be in this relationship, what is happening in the relationship that isn’t working, and create goals. Then, we will work together to understand and untangle the negative patterns. We will explore your feelings, needs, and communication styles. In sessions, I am interactive and foster authentic and effective communication between couples.

Most couples wait six years before seeking marriage counseling, according to John Gottman’s research. Sometimes couples wait too long, and the relationship ends in divorce. So, if you’re having difficulties, don’t wait.

Being in a happy relationship is healthy for you. Researchers have found that marital satisfaction has been linked to improved immune system functioning, better recovery from illness and injuries, and more effective management of stressful situations.

P.S. I was interviewed for an article on EFT. Please click here if you are interested in reading it

Get in touch.

I'm always happy to hear from people.
If you have any questions, need more information, or would like to make an appointment, you can call me at 301-279-7779, email me at BethLCounseling@aol.com, or use the form below.

I see clients using a video-chat platform called VSee. It is free to download and easy to use. Please ask me about that option, if you are interested.

 

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About Beth

Licensed Clinical Social Worker • Over 15 years of experience • Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Supervisor • Member of The Greater Washington Society of Clinical Social Work • Member of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy • Member of Clinical Social Work Association • Member of National Association of Social Workers

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