Working with Couples
“Love is everything it’s cracked up to be…It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, your risk is even greater.”
Couples, even happy ones, can sometimes face difficulty. Couples can find themselves in repetitive cycles that leave each person feeling more separate than together. In these situations, it is natural for some difficult feelings to appear.
Maybe you’re feeling…
- like you just can’t communicate with your partner
- like the conflict between the two of you keeps getting worse despite your best intentions
- a loss of affection and intimacy between the two of you
- like it is hard for you to trust your partner
- criticized and judged; like no matter what you say or do it’s not the right thing
- not cared for, or like you don’t really matter to your partner
- like you’re avoiding your partner so as not to get into an argument
- like your arguments go around and around and you don’t seem to get anywhere, but feel more discouraged
Sometimes these problems can feel insurmountable, but they’re not.
There is a road map to a better relationship. It comes out of an extensive body of research. This research helps us understand how couples get off course and how to guide partners back to a close, loving relationship, where each of you feels like the other person has your back.
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) is a proven method for creating loving connections. Research shows that 73% of couples going through EFT go from relationship distress to relationship health. In addition, relationships continue to improve after therapy ends. Here’s a link to learn more about EFT [www.iceeft.com]. Dr. Sue Johnson developed EFT in the 1980s. To hear Sue Johnson talk about the importance of having someone we can count on, click here: Susan Johnson on the urgency of attachment.
In our work, first we’ll understand what it’s like for each of you to be in this relationship and what is happening in the relationship that is keeping you both feeling stuck and separate from one another. Then, we’ll work together so that you both can feel more accepted and sure with one another. The EFT approach teaches life’s problems are easier to solve when couples are feeling secure with each other.
And being in a happy relationship is healthy for you. Researchers have found that marital satisfaction has been linked to improved immune system functioning, better recovery from illness and injuries, and more effective management of stressful situations.
Most couples wait six years before seeking marriage counseling, according to John Gottman’s research. Sometimes couples wait too long, and the relationship ends in divorce. If you would like to strengthen your marriage and work with someone who has lots of training with a model with a documented success rate, then please give me a call. I believe in getting to the heart of the matter and will do my best for your relationship.
I am a Certified Therapist and Therapist Supervisor in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
I have had – and continue to have – excellent and extensive training in EFT. In particular, I am grateful to my individual EFT supervisors, Rebecca Jorgensen and Yolanda von Hockauf.
P.S. I was interviewed for an article on EFT. Please click here if you are interested in reading it.
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If you have any questions, need more information, or would like to make an appointment, you can call me at 301-279-7779, email me at BethLCounseling@aol.com, or use the form below.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker • Over 15 years of experience • Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Supervisor • Member of The Greater Washington Society of Clinical Social Work • Member of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy • Member of Clinical Social Work Association • Member of National Association of Social Workers
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